Dealing with disappointment is really, really hard. It sucks actually. When you’ve worked really hard for something and to be told that it’s failed, it hasn’t worked or that someone doesn’t like what you’ve created. I have had to deal with my fair share of disappointment both with my own creative ideas. I do not take critcism well either and automatically become defensive. I am always trying to justify why I do things the way I do but truthfully not everyone is going to like or love you. Not everyone is your people or tribe and sometimes that’s really hard to deal with.
I recently saw a friend get something I really wanted and whilst I was, of course, super happy for them, I did think oh well why didn’t that brand want me? What did I do wrong? Why am I not good enough? These sort of questions can take you to a really negative space and it is hard to shake out of that space when you’re already coping with anxiety. I think I naturally take things harder because of my anxiety and therefore, whilst I might not show it all the time, it’s really easy to knock down my confidence and sometimes that kind of takes my breath away.
- Don’t compare yourself to others because everyone is on a different journey. We are not all the same, we are not all equal and we all have something beautiful and unqiue to offer.
- It’s okay to get a bit sad because you’re disappointed but don’t let that get you down. Shake it off.
- If you’re disappointed in a friend then ask yourself why. If that friend keeps disappointing you then does it really serve you having that person in your life?
- Write a letter to the person you’re disappointed with or even better have a really frank discussion about it to clear the air. This is something that needs to happen if it’s your partner or it can create such a negative environment at home.
- Don’t dwell on the disappointment but instead focus on how and where you should improve
- Ask for help or advice from others that you feel are doing better than you
- Never stop learning new things or skills. Put those into practise because someday someone might feel the same disappointment that you have felt.
- Practise gratitude and become truly appreciative for what you have in your life right now.
- Take the aggression out on something else like a run, swim or high intensity fitness class. You could do with the boost to your endorphins and a way to channel out that adrenaline.
- If it gets too much and the disappointment turns into something darker then seek help, talk to someone, don’t let it get you down or knock your confidence away.